- Khadijah Bint Khuwailid:
In Makkah — prior to Hijra —
the Prophet’s household comprised him [pbuh] and his wife Khadijah bint
Khuwailid. He
was twenty-five and she was forty when they got married. She was the first woman he
married. She was the only wife he had till she died. He had sons and daughters with her.
None of their sons lived long. They all died. Their daughters were Zainab,
Ruqaiya, Umm
Kulthum and Fatimah.Zainab was married to
her maternal cousin Abu Al-‘As bin Al-Rabi‘ and that was before
Al-Hijra.
Ruqaiya and Umm Kulthum were both married to ‘Uthman bin ‘Affan ÑÖì Çááå
Úäå successively (i.e. he married one after the death of her sister). Fatimah was
married to ‘Ali bin Abi Talib; and that was in the period between Badr and Uhud
battles. The sons and daughters that Fatimah and ‘Ali had were Al-Hasan,
Al-Husain,
Zainab and Umm Kulthum.
It is well-known that the Prophet [pbuh] was
exceptionally authorized to have more than four wives for various reasons. The wives he
married were thirteen. Nine of them outlived him. Two died in his lifetime: Khadijah and
the Mother of the poor (Umm Al-Masakeen) — Zainab bint Khuzaima, besides two
others with whom he did not consummate his marriage.
Sawdah bint Zam‘a: He married her in
Shawwal, in the tenth
year of Prophethood, a few days after the death of Khadijah. Prior to that, she was
married to a paternal cousin of hers called As-Sakran bin ‘Amr.
‘Aishah bint Abu Bakr: He married her in the eleventh year
of Prophethood, a year after his marriage to Sawdah, and two years and five months before
Al-Hijra. She was six years old when he married her. However, he did not consummate the
marriage with her till Shawwal seven months after Al-Hijra, and that was in
Madinah. She
was nine then. She was the only virgin he married, and the most beloved creature to him.
As a woman she was the most learnèd woman in jurisprudence.
Hafsah bint ‘Umar bin Al-Khattab: She was Aiyim (i.e.
husbandless). Her ex-husband was Khunais bin Hudhafa As-Sahmi in the period between Badr
and Uhud battles. The Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] married her in the third year of
Al-Hijra.
Zainab bint Khuzaimah: She was from Bani Hilal bin ‘Amir bin
Sa‘sa‘a. Was nicknamed Umm Al-Masakeen, because of her kindness and care
towards them. She used to be the wife of ‘Abdullah bin Jahsh, who was martyred at
Uhud, was married to the Prophet [pbuh] in the fourth year of Al-Hijra, but she died two
or three months after her marriage to the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh].
Umm Salamah Hind bint Abi Omaiyah: She used to be the wife of Abu
Salamah, who died in Jumada Al-Akhir, in the fourth year of Al-Hijra. The Messenger of
Allâh [pbuh] married her in Shawwal of the same year.
Zainab bint Jahsh bin Riyab: She was from Bani Asad bin Khuzaimah
and was the Messenger’s paternal cousin. She was married to Zaid bin Haritha —
who was then considered son of the Prophet [pbuh] . However, Zaid divorced her. Allâh
sent down some Qur’ânic verses with this respect:
"So when Zaid had
accomplished his desire from her (i.e., divorced her), We gave her to you in
marriage." [Al-Qur'an 33:37]
About her, Allâh has sent down some verses of Al-Ahzab
Chapter that discussed the adoption of children in detail — anyway we will discuss
this later. The Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] married her in Dhul-Qa‘dah, the fifth year
of Al-Hijra.
Juwairiyah bint Al-Harith: Al-Harith was the head of Bani
Al-Mustaliq of Khuza‘ah. Juwairiyah was among the booty that fell to the Muslims from
Bani Al-Mustaliq. She was a portion of Thabit bin Qais bin Shammas’ share. He made
her a covenant to set her free at a certain time. The Messenger of Allâh [pbuh]
accomplished the covenant and married her in Sha‘ban in the sixth year of
Al-Hijra.
Umm Habibah: Ramlah, the daughter of Abu
Sufyan. She was married
to ‘Ubaidullah bin Jahsh. She migrated with him to Abyssinia (Ethiopia). When
‘Ubaidullah apostatized and became a Christian, she stoodfast to her religion and
refused to convert. However ‘Ubaidullah died there in Abyssinia (Ethiopia). The
Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] dispatched ‘Amr bin Omaiyah Ad-Damri with a letter to
Negus, the king, asking him for Umm Habibah’s hand — that was in
Muharram, in
the seventh year of Al-Hijra. Negus agreed and sent her to the Prophet [pbuh] in the
company of Sharhabeel bin Hasnah.
Safiyah bint Huyai bin Akhtab: From the Children of Israel, she
was among the booty taken at Khaibar battle. The Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] took her for
himself. He set her free and married her after that conquest in the seventh year of
Al-Hijra.
Maimunah bint Al-Harith: The daughter of
Al-Harith, and the
sister of Umm Al-Fadl Lubabah bint Al-Harith. The Prophet [pbuh] married her after the
Compensatory ‘Umrah (Lesser Pilgrimage). That was in Dhul-Qa‘dah in the
seventh year of Al-Hijra.
Those were the eleven women that the Messenger of
Allâh [pbuh] had married and consummated marriage with them. He outlived two of them
— Khadijah and Zainab, the Umm Al-Masakeen. Whereas the other nine wives
outlived him.
The two wives that he did not consummate marriage
with were, one from Bani Kilab and the other from Kindah and this was the one called
Al-Jauniyah.
Besides these, he had two concubines. The first was
Mariyah, the Coptic (an Egyptian Christian), a present gift from Al-Muqauqis, vicegerent
of Egypt — she gave birth to his son Ibrâhim, who died in Madinah while still a
little child, on the 28th or 29th of Shawwal in the year 10 A.H., i.e. 27th January, 632
A.D. The second one was Raihanah bint Zaid An-Nadriyah or Quraziyah, a captive from Bani
Quraiza. Some people say she was one of his wives. However, Ibn Al-Qaiyim gives more
weight to the first version. Abu ‘Ubaidah spoke of two more concubines,
Jameelah, a
captive, and another one, a bondwoman granted to him by Zainab bint Jahsh. [Za'd Al-Ma'ad 1/29]
Whosoever meditates on the life of the Messenger of
Allâh [pbuh], will conceive that his marriage to this great number of women in the late
years of his lifetime, after he had almost spent thirty years of his best days of youth
sufficing himself to one old wife — Khadijah and later on to Sawdah, was in no way an
overwhelming lustful desire to be satisfied through such a number of wives. These
marriages were in fact motivated by aims and purposes much more glorious and greater than
what normal marriages usually aim at.
The tendency of the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh]
towards establishing a relationship by marriage with both Abu Bakr and ‘Umar and his
marriage to ‘Aishah and Hafsah — and getting his daughter Fatimah married to
‘Ali bin Abi Talib, and the marriage of his two daughters, Ruqaiyah and Umm Kulthum
to ‘Uthman — indicate clearly that he aimed at confirming the relationship among
the four men — whose sacrifices and great achievements in the cause of Islam are
well-known.
Besides this, there was that tradition of the Arabs
to honour the in-law relations. For them a son or a daughter-in-law was a means by which
they sought the consolidation of relationship and affection with various
phratries.
Hostility and fights against alliances and affinities would bring an unforgettable shame,
disgrace and degradation to them.
By marrying the Mothers of believers, the Prophet
[pbuh] wanted to demolish or break down the Arab tribes’ enmity to Islam and
extinguish their intense hatred. Umm Salamah was from Bani Makhzum — the clan of Abu
Jahl and Khalid bin Al-Waleed. Her marriage to the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] produced
good results. Khalid’s deliberately undecisive attitude at Uhud — for instance
— was due to the Messenger’s marriage to Umm Salamah. Khalid went even further
than that, in a short time he willingly became a keen obedient Muslim.
After the Messenger of Allâh’s marriage to Umm
Habibah, Abu Sufyan, her father, did not encounter him with any sort of hostility.
Similarly his marriage to Juwairiyah and Safiyah made the two tribes stop all sorts of
provocation, aggression or hostility against Islam. Better still, Juwairiyah, herself, was
one of the greatest sources of blessing to her own people. On the occasion of her marriage
to the Prophet [pbuh], his Companions set a hundred families of her people free. They
said: "It is for their affinity with the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh]." No need to
say what great good impression this gratitude had on everybody’s soul. One of the
greatest motives of all is Allâh’s bidding his Prophet to educate and purify the
souls of people who had known nothing whatsoever about courtesy, education and culture. He
had to teach them to comply with the necessities of civilization and to contribute to the
solidification and the establishment of a new Islamic society.
An essential fundamental rule of the Muslim society
is to prohibit mixing of men and women. Providing direct education for women, though
highly compelling, is impossible in the light of this Islamic norm. Therefore, the Prophet
[pbuh] had to select some women of different ages and talents, and indoctrinate them
systematically in order to educate she-bedouins and townswomen, old and young, and thus
furnish them with the instruments of propagating the true faith. The Mothers of believers
(i.e. wives of the Prophet [pbuh]) were in such a convenient position that they could
convey the state of the Prophet [pbuh] and his affairs to people (men and women). Being
educated and taught the teachings and rules of Islam, his wives, especially those who
outlived him, played a very important role in conveying Prophetic traditions Ahadith
to the Muslims. ‘Aishah, for instance, related a large number of the Prophet’s
deeds and statements.
His marriage to his paternal cousin Zainab bint
Jahsh was a peculiar case which aimed at eradicating a deeply rooted pre-Islamic tradition
— i.e. the adoption of children. In Al-Jahiliyah the Arabs used to consider an
adopted person exactly like a real son or daughter as far as rights and sanctities are
concerned. That Jahiliyah tradition had been so deeply rooted in their hearts that
it was not easy to remove or uproot it. This tradition in fact affronts the basic
principles of Islam; especially those concerned with marriage, divorce and inheritance and
some other cases, and brought about lots of corruptions and indecencies. Naturally Islam
stands against such deeds, and attempts to remove them from the Islamic society.
For the eradication of this tradition, Allâh, the
Exalted, bid His Messenger [pbuh] to marry his cousin Zainab bint Jahsh, who was an
ex-wife to Zaid. She was at variance with Zaid to an extent that he intended to divorce
her — that was at the time when the Confederates (Al-Ahzab) were making an
evil alliance against the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] and against the Muslims. The
Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] feared that the hypocrites, the idolaters, and the Jews would
make a propaganda out of it and try to influence some Muslims of weak hearts. That was why
he urged Zaid not to divorce her, in order not to get involved into that trial.
Undoubtedly this hesitation and partiality were
alien to the character of the Prophet [pbuh] . They did not apply to the power of
determination and will with which he had been sent. Allâh, the Exalted, blamed him for
that by saying:
"And (remember)
when you said to him (Zaid bin Haritha ÑÖì Çááå Úäå —
the freed slave of the Prophet [pbuh]) on whom Allâh has bestowed grace (by guiding him
to Islam) and you (O Muhammad [pbuh] too) have done favour (by manumitting him),
‘Keep your wife to yourself, and fear Allâh.’ But you did hide in yourself
(i.e. what Allâh has already made known to you that He will give her to you in marriage)
that which Allâh will make manifest, you did fear the people (i.e. Muhammad
[pbuh]
married the divorced wife of his manumitted slave) whereas Allâh had a better right that
you should fear him." [Al-Qur'an 33:37]
Finally Zaid divorced Zainab and the Messenger of
Allâh [pbuh] married her at the time he laid siege to Bani Quraiza. That was after she
had finished her Iddat (i.e. period during which a widow or a divorcee may not
remarry). Allâh Himself had already ordained it, and so gave him no other alternative.
Allâh had even started the marriage Himself by saying:
"So when Zaid had
accomplished his desire from her (i.e. divorced her), We gave her to you in marriage, so
that (in future) there may be no difficulty to the believers in respect of (the marriage
of) the wives of their adopted sons when the latter have no desire to keep them (i.e. they
have divorced them)." [Al-Qur'an 33:37]
And that was in order to break down the tradition of
child adoption in practice after He had done it in words:
"Call them
(adopted sons) by (the names of) their fathers, that is more just near Allâh."
[Al-Qur'an 33:5]
"Muhammad
([pbuh]) is not the father of any man among you, but he is the Messenger of Allâh, and
the last (end) of the Prophets." [Al-Qur'an 33:40]
Lots of deeply-rooted traditions cannot be uprooted
or demolished or even adjusted by mere words. They must be matched and associated with the
action of the advocate of the Message himself.
This could be perceived through the deeds practised
by the Muslims at Al-Hudaibiyah ‘Umrah (Lesser Pilgrimage) during which
‘Urwah bin Mas‘ud Al-Thaqafi saw certain Muslims tend to pick up any
expectoration that fell down from the Prophet [pbuh]. He also saw them race to the water
of his ablution and they almost quarrelled for it. There were others who competed to
pledge allegiance to death and some others pledged not to flee from (the battlefield).
Among those people, were eminent Companions like ‘Umar and Abu Bakr, who although
dedicated all their lives to the Prophet [pbuh] and to the cause of Islam, but refused to
carry out the Messenger’s ordres with respect to slaughtering sacrificial animals
after the ratification of Al-Hudaibiyah Peace Treaty, the thing that perturbed and caused
the Prophet [pbuh] to feel anxious. However, when Umm Salamah [R] advised that he take the
initiative and sacrifice his animals, his followers raced to follow his example; a clear
evidence in support of the saying: Actions speak louder than words, in the process of
exterminating a deeply-established tradition.
Hypocrites aroused a lot of
suspicions and made a broad false propaganda against that marriage. Their acts and talks
about that marriage had ill-effects on those Muslims whose Faith was still weak,
particularly that Zainab was the fifth wife — and the Noble Qur’ân limited the
number up to four only; Zaid was traditionally his son, and so a father marrying his
son’s divorcee was a heinous sin in the eyes of the Arabians.
Al-Ahzab Surah was revealed to shed full
light on the two issues, i.e. Islam does not recognize adoption of children, and the
Prophet [pbuh] is given (by Allâh) more freedom as regards the number of wives he can
hold than other Muslims in order to achieve noble and honourable purposes.
However, the treatment of the Messenger of Allâh
[pbuh] to his wives was of honourable, noble, and superb nature. His wives were on tops in
respect of honour, satisfaction, patience, modesty, and service (that is to say the
performance of housework and marriage duties). Although the Messenger’s house-life
was hard and unbearable, none of his wives complained. Anas said about the Prophet’s
life: "According to my knowledge, the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] has never tasted a
thin flattened loaf in all his lifetime, nor has he ever seen with his own eyes roasted
mutton." [Sahih
Al-Bukhari 2/956]
‘Aishah said: "Over two months have
elapsed — during which we have seen three crescents — and yet no fire has been
kindled in the houses of the Messenger of Allâh [pbuh] (i.e. they did not cook
food)." "What did you eat to sustain yourselves?" ‘Urwah asked. She
said "The two blacks: dates and water" [ibid
2/956]. Lots of information about the hard life of the Prophet [pbuh] were
told.
In spite of these hardships, straits and adversity
of life in the house of the Prophet [pbuh], none of his wives uttered a word of complaint
worthy of reproach — but once. This exception was required by human instinctive
inclinations. However, it was not so important and consequently it did not require the
decree of a legislative rule. Allâh has given them an opportunity to choose between two
things, as clearly stated in the following verses:
"O Prophet
(Muhammad [pbuh])! Say to your wives: ‘If you desire the life of this world, and its
glitter, — then come! I will make a provision for you and set you free in a handsome
manner (divorce). But if you desire Allâh and His Messenger, and the Home of the
Hereafter, then verily, Allâh has prepared for Al-Muhsinat (good doers) amongst
you an enormous reward.’" [Al-Qur'an 33:28,29]
They were so noble and honest that none of them
preferred ‘the life of this world and its glitter’ to the abode in the
Hereafter.
Although they were many in number, nothing of the
dispute occurrences that normally happen among co-wives, took place in their houses. Very
few cases could be the only exception; but they were quite normal. Allâh reproached them
for that, so they ceased to do such a thing. This incident is mentioned in At-Tahreem
Chapter:
"O Prophet! Why
do you ban (for yourself) that which Allâh has made lawful to you …"
[Al-Qur'an 66:1] (to the end of the fifth verse).
Discussing polygamy — in my opinion — is
not a necessity; since a person who is familiar with the Europeans, and indecent
practices, sufferings, wickedness, their sorrows and distresses, the horrible crimes they
commit in this respect as well as the trials, the disasters that they are involved in, and
which emanate directly from their disregard of the principle of polygamy form a good
reason (to justify the soundness of polygamy). The distorted picture of life in Europe
with the ill-practices featuring it, could truthfully justify the existence and practice
of polygamy. In this, there are Divine signs for all people possessed of lucid mind.
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